Where has the “man-ess” in the men our era dissapeared to?
MEN , in the olden days, i assume, are species who are very gentle, caring and protective over the opposite species…which are the women.
MEN, (well, some men larh) in our era now, i classify modestly, are worst than BEASTS! F*ckers who do not appreciate the opposite species, who are careless and abusive. I want to believe that there are still gentlemen out there amongst us…but , oh… puh-leese DO convince me!
I wouldn’t blog so for no reason….cos i have a very , very solid reason to stand up to why i quote so as per above!
This afternoon, i was driving when i came to a halt at a traffic light as it turned red. I drove pass the little traffic light , to as much as i couldn’t see it change. So, i decided to accelerate when the cars on my right side did so. The 2 big cars on my right kicked it up, so i "assumed" the traffic light turned GREEN. I happily stepped on the fuel and drove… as i looked at my rear view mirror, i saw a grey car coming…it wasnt close, neither it needed to hit the emergency breaks. Then i knew, i juz ran the red light. But, it shudn’t be a problem as the car wasnt coming at me at a mighty speed.
So, i drove on steadily , but i felt weird as i saw the grey car driving like mad, swirving from the left and right, ducking cars , as if in a hurry. I came to a traffic light again, and stayed on the right lane as the 5th to 6th car in line. On my left lane, it was empty…but nooooooooo, the grey car stopped right next to my car and the driver wind down his car window and started tapping aggresively on my passenger’s window. I wanted to wind down my window to appologize for my silly mistake when he i saw him getting even more aggresive and the tapping got harder and he popped out his HUGE middle finger and stuck it at my face and was swearing ‘god-knows-what’ foul languages which i couldnt make out a word of it! I swear his tapping could break my passenger’s window if it got any harder. I looked on at him…not wanting to look away, in fear it would provoke him any further and he might wham at my car, and though to myself , what an asshole this guy is! And the bloody traffic light took the longest in my life to turn GREEEN! juz imagine the nightmare!!!!!!! And he kept on pointing his huge-black-middle finger at me! Summo, he kept pressing it onto my passenger mirror, until now, i can even still see his disgusting hand prints on it! Arrrrgggh! I was gettin furious but i cannot do anything.
He continued to chase me after the traffic light turned green…and i managed to divert him at a splitting road. So? Don’t u think this man’s action was taken abit too overboard? Why did he have to act abusive over a small matter? Plus, i did apologize in the form of a hand wave. And plus, doesn’t he see im a GIRL??? I think i shud be excused…coz im a GIRL! What, do i need to show boobs to let him see that? It’s either he’s That blind, or he has no respect for a lady.
That’s why , i feel that men these days, have too much arrogance. They feel almighty by doin as such. They wanna feel in control. Sadly, i look down on men like these…for they have no sense of dignity nor pride, nor attraction , nor respect from a lady. I personally see them as a waste for being alive.
How often to you guys pull a chair for ur gf, lady-fren or maybe even ur wife juz before u get comfortable sitting down? How often do u open the car door for her before u get into ur ride? Or the door as u enter a place? A kiss before she sleeps at night? The word " I LOVE YOU" meaningfully said before u put down the dial? The gentleman in You doesn’t only apply on the road as my incident above, but in every second in ur daily living towards a girl, even if she’s only a fren.
Here’s one lame eg k ;
At a coffee-shop ;
Boy sits down, while girl takes out tissue, den wipe wipe the chair from the spills of the milo from the previous customer. Boy jus looks on. Then comes the waitress, boy says " Kopi- O" den takes out handphone , donno do what shit, girl is thinking of wat to drink …." Erm, teh-c pls"….Boy asks, "Eh, wat u wan2 eat arh?" Girl says , " Erm, laksa pls." Boy- "oh…i wan2 eat bak-kut teh lorh….patto yao liaw!" Girl walks to order her laksa herself.
Server comes with the chopsticks and chinese spoon…girl takes out tissue, to wipe them clean for both of them. The comes the bak-kut-teh and laksa, boy wallops his food while the girl picks out the biggest prawn and gives him some.
WAH LAO EH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So guys out there, if u think ur not man enough, no nid to admitt larh, coz u guys won’t anyways, c’mon , put summo effort…its WAYYYYYYYYY to DECLINING!
December 10th, 2007 at 11:33 pm
Mayb the road bully u met is a Gay! HAHA Anyway he shouldnt have harrassed you. You just caused him a jolt while driving and there is no need to show how bad and powerful he is. Ya terrible ppl are all over the place. hmmm. bout the men who are not so gentlemen with the chairs and F&B orders. It all depends on individual gals requirement. Some other gals likes men to be rough and unsensitive. Sounds weird but its true
December 11th, 2007 at 8:01 am
The road bully that you met is not a gay..most gay guy that i know are the most gentle kind and will never do anything like that,he is just a prick,no good piece of shit,most men don’t act that way,girls don’t like it rough and unsensitive it either,it is just some stereo type fucked up idea that instilled in the head of the girls by the male dominant society,she probably saw her mum did it to her dad,her mum probably saw her grandma did it to her grand dad,her future daughter gonna see her do it to that asshole,and it just go on and on…worse and worse,that;s the only way she know how,so we need changes,lot of changes,especially in chinese society,Melissa you are doing the right thing here to question all the fucked up thinking…we need changes,we need more people like you to question authority,see,if it wouldn’t for Colombus,we might still think that the world is FLAT!!
December 12th, 2007 at 3:49 am
I would say that for Malaysian guys that fact would be true. But try going to a western country, men are much more polite and gentlemen there.
Plus if there was a crash the guy behind you would be at fault, because he shouldn’t be following you so close first rule of driving school, talgating is a no no.
December 12th, 2007 at 11:44 pm
erm…so if a guy is just playing gentle, so that he could get pussy…that is nice, huh? UNLIKELY!
this gentleman-ess thing comes from sincerity so yeah, to me sincerity wins it all.
btw, of cos everyone likes to be treated gently and which girls dont like guys to be sensitive enough? we just cant stop complaining everyday.
okay these are all just my opinions.
December 13th, 2007 at 12:20 am
If i open a door for a 80 years old grandma that i never meet,is that sincerity?NO NO NO There is no sincerity there,so it has to be consider as a gentleman_ess thing then,does that also mean that i want to get her pussy?give me more of your opinions on this one please,Adeline!!
December 13th, 2007 at 5:02 pm
opening a door for 80 is respectful. period.
December 13th, 2007 at 7:01 pm
Hmm…… Yes, it’s true that gentlemen-ness is losing its lusture. However, I must disagree and say that is ot not neccesarily true that things are much better in western countries. I believe that that is a stereotype. I’ve spent some time in NZ and I’ve seen many incidents when men are rude to women, or show no gentlemen-ness.
In the same context, I’ve seen men who treat women with respect right here in Msia. I thk that this has less to do with gender than we thk. For example, if it was me driving instead of Mel, I would have probably gotten the same treatment from that asshole, don’t you thk so?
The bottomline is that i thk the guy is not mad at the fact that Mel is a lady. He’s just mad, period, lol!!
Yeah, Donny and Adeline, agreed. Opening doors for 80 sth yr old ladies is respectful, and also sincere.
Andy, you’re sort of contradictin your own point. You say you’re not after the 80 yr old’s pussy right? So that means the act of opening the door for her is SINCERE. If you open the door for her becos you’re after her pussy, then that’s INSINCERE, see, becos then you’ll have cruel intentions, LOL!!
Sincerity and gentlemen-ness comes hand in hand. Just my 2 cents worth.
Norman (Dyerbreed)
December 20th, 2007 at 4:43 am
To expect malaysian guy to pull a chair to let lady to sit, open the door for lady or every little siaw tung chiuk are very hard for guy to do in public coz guys wan face. Even they do everything above stated izit 150% the girl she love will except him? can u garrantee that? u can’t. that why some guy wont go for it 100% they will go for 30% to see what is the reaction of the girl. if they ar partners oredi Definitely will do everything stated above. For the guy who lift his middle finger pointing at u nevermind get his plate number go buy toto and magnum4d lar. if kenak 1st price sure u said thank u to that guy.
December 24th, 2007 at 7:55 pm
“To expect malaysian guy to pull a chair to let lady to sit, open the door for lady or every little siaw tung chiuk are very hard for guy to do in public coz guys wan face.”
I’ll have to disagree, it’s just not part of our upbringing, and not about saving face or being ‘egoistic’. But hey, no harm starting now, right? ^_^ In the end, it all goes down to sincerity and respect.
On the topic of losing the gentlemen-ess, I guess we have too much ah bengs, ah lians, rempits, etc. around these days. Talk about “Budi Bahasa Budaya Kita”… I believe I’ll need Mel’s professional TLC as a nurse coz I’ll definately get hypertension discussing that issue! ^_^ Cheers, and Merry Christmas!
February 11th, 2008 at 3:02 am
I’ve met a person like that as well 3 months ago in kuching.. Gray colour old proton iswara car.. Bloody asshole chased after me, threw a paper cup from his car at the back to my car infront and purposely hit my car twice from behind.. came down from his car seems like wana picked a fight with me for raising a hand at him (not middle finger, mind you) coz he stopped in the middle of the road and i almost hit him at 80km/hour if i had not duck to the other empty land. The rest, long story.. one word for him though.. dickhead!
February 12th, 2008 at 2:11 am
OMG … drivers nowadays..
:S